Fibro Jedi Younglings – Becoming a Fibromyalgia Father

Fibro Jedi Younglings - Becoming a Fibromyalgia FatherAs a lot of my friends on Twitter have been expressing love, concern and care over my health and over that of my wife, I thought it best to let you all know what the heck has been going on with us both and why it’s both awesome and massively challenging at the same time.

Becoming a Father

Yes, after over 9 years of marriage and having concluded family was never going to happen for us, we are actually 3 months into expecting a child. There should never be any ‘surprise’ children and given how long it’s taken us to get one, this is probably our one shot. So it is most definitely a gifts – and one we are massively grateful for.

However it has been a really rough ride, especially in the last 6 weeks. My wife has suffered from Hyperemesis Gravidarum, a condition which causes women to be sick and feel nauseated over and above the ‘normal’ acceptable amounts. In its extreme some mothers-to-be can be hospitalised with it. It can lead to dehydration which can be a major issue for both mother and child. Thankfully so far, we have managed to prevent this, but it has been a challenge.

Worsening Fibromyalgia

We felt something we'd lost for a long time. Hope. (Satele Shan)
“We felt something we’d lost for a long time. Hope.” – Satele Shan
Because of this, I’ve had to try to do more around the house and in the office, at a time when my Fibromyalgia is really bad. My hand pain is awful (I’m writing this blog post to save me writing many tweets to you all!), the doctor has just prescribed me some replacement, stronger opiates and a ‘mood stabilizer’, because pain increases Depression which in turn increases pain (one of the wonderful cycles in my health). So I’ve had more to do, on less resources.

A Massive Thank You

Despite my semi-anonymous state here and on Twitter, I’m so grateful for the encouragement and support I’ve received from so many of you. You have shown me that, despite being in an ‘Age of Trolls’, social media can still bring out the best in people.

I hopefully will have a new Jedi Youngling by the end of October 2016, to train in the ways of Force Balancing, something I genuinely thought would not be open to me. It’s humbling and its challenging, especially with my pain levels being out of control.

But it does show that, sometimes, occasionally, light can burn through the darkness.


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Fibro Jedi

A 30-something Shadow Jedi, married and have a small daughter. By that I mean "young", not just "short". I have a chronic pain condition called Fibromyalgia andI play LOTRO, SWTOR and FFXIV and blog about two of them. Social Media has connected me with so many people and some of those have become amazing friends too! As a hobby I am relearning drawing, which you can see on my DeviantArt profile.

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Kaylen/Kayeri
Kaylen/Kayeri
12th April 2016 3:57 pm

::HAPPYSQUEE:: OMG, you’re going to be a Daddy!!!! I am SO happy for both of you! Having a child is a life-changing experience, simply because you hold that tiny human you’ve brought into the world and you realize it’s not about you anymore. It’s about them, for them and you want to give them the world. My daughter will turn 15 the same month your little padawan is expected to arrive and what a ride it’s been to get this far! =)

::hugging both of you::

Kaylen/Kayeri
Kaylen/Kayeri
Reply to  Fibro Jedi
12th April 2016 4:02 pm

Oh, be prepared for the other transformative experience, although you only have a 50/50 chance on this one. I was having an ultrasound and the tech asked us if we wanted to know the sex. When she told us our baby was a girl, my husband immediately realized the evil inherent in all males and vowed to protect his baby girl from them. =)

Sablefire
Sablefire
Reply to  Fibro Jedi
12th April 2016 5:53 pm

Congratulations my friend. When you get to hold that little one, the world changes. It is an amazing moment.

Ravanel Griffon
Ravanel Griffon
14th April 2016 11:32 pm

I am so, so very happy for you!

I’m incredibly impressed with how you keep fighting and going. With this going on, it must be extremely taxing for both of you. But also so worth it. Sending positive vibes your way and wishing you all the best the coming time.

Rav

Laura Jane Quick
Laura Jane Quick
3rd May 2016 7:32 am

Huge congratulations to you both, news we’ve all been waiting to hear as we know how much you both want this. Hope your mrs is starting to feel a little better and your new meds begin to take effect. Take care of each other and that little bump!!! Love Eljay1980 xx

JANE SINCLAIR
JANE SINCLAIR
5th May 2016 4:42 pm

Mickel Therapy is a treatment for Fibro that teaches you how to re-connect to your sense of self by taking actions in response to gut instinct emotions. The stuff you would learn could then be passed on to your child as s/he grows up in a world where we are accidentally taught not to listen to our gut instincts.We say things like “dont be soft””pull yourself together””stop crying,there’s nothing wrong with you” and so unconsciously we learn to put other people’s needs before our own.We find it hard to set boundaries and say “No” in different situations and our body’s… Read more »

ShadowsStorm
ShadowsStorm
12th May 2016 1:13 am

I can’t say I know what your going through, only years old but I have no rl friends whatsoever, cause I played games all my childhood. Well that and I have a hard time associating with peoples emotions and being sensitive with others without being taken advantage of. So a word to the wise, don’t let your kid end up like me, you’ll hate yourself for it. Heaven knows I do but that’s more than enough for the two of us. Well, wanted to wish you all the best for you and your family. And sorry about the advice, I… Read more »

Joanna
Joanna
7th June 2016 2:12 am

Just stumbled across your page. I had Lyme for many years and there’s a lot of similarities with fibro. I still have some of those pains, I just have a “scary high pain tolerance” to quote the ob/gyn who delivered my son. 🙂 Anyway, it’s hard when chronically ill, but it’s an awesome ride. My 4yo loves watching us play SWTOR. 🙂

Afrikah83@Chitonfya
27th July 2016 5:51 am

Hi dear,
Congratulations,expecting a child is a miracle and am glad she is due in October that’s my birthday month.After waiting for many years you and your wife certainly deserve this precious gift,you gonna make an amazing father.I love being a mother to my 6 yr old son…the best gift I have received was having him.I wish you nothing but the best to enjoy this new journey.

*Big hug*